many are called but few want to be chosen

I am fascinated by what is happening to the England football team. They seriously underperformed at the recent World Cup and people have said it is because they were too tired. Well lots of the other teams at the World Cup have players who play in the English Premier League and their get up and go had not got up and gone.

Now we have a situation where Fabio Capello, the manager (for the non-football followers), has named a squad of players he wants to choose from for the friendly international against Hungary on Wednesday and subsequently two of them have said that they no longer want to play international football. Didn’t Fabio speak with them when he selected them? Did he simply assume that they would want to play because it was England?

It seems to me that there is a serious lack of communication going on there.

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Communication between people is one of the most important things that we can do. When I was a lawyer I handled some matrimonial cases and in all of them you could trace much of what led to the irretrievable breakdown of the relationship to a failure to communicate with each other. Perhaps one of them was hurt and did not tell the other, so the hurt festered. Perhaps one of them said cruel things to the other and did not apologise. Perhaps they forgot to tell each other that they loved each other and started to think that they did not. Perhaps they had started to talk about their own needs and rights rather than considering those of their partner first. Perhaps they had failed to be honest with each other.

Of course there are many other factors at work when a relationship breaks down, it’s not just about a failure to communicate properly. But it invariably exacerbates or exaggerates the problems.

That, of course, is also true of our relationship with God. It is weakened when we do not communicate clearly. That is not just about us praying more, but also about us listening, seeking God’s voice. It is about us reading the Bible and wanting to discover more about God and ourselves through it. It is about us being honest with God and ourselves. It is about apologies and forgiveness, conversation that involves all aspects of our lives, feelings and facts. God wants us to communicate with him, and he wants to communicate with us. The issue is really whether we give him the time and attention he deserves.

Communicate clearly…
Spotted in a toilet of an office:
Toilet out of order. Please use floor below.

In an office:
After tea break staff should empty the teapot and stand upside down on the draining board.

In lifts in Hong Kong:
When there is a fire, do not use the lift. (WHEN not if!)

An AST customer was asked by a manager to “send a copy of your defective disks to us”. A few days later, a letter arrived from the customer with a xeroxed copy of the disks.

A Dell manager was giving some help to a customer and told him to put the disk in the drive and close the door. The customer told the manager to hold on and was heard to put the phone down, get up from their chair, cross the room and close the door.

Compaq management had to consider changing the phrase “Press any key” in all their manuals because of the flood of calls asking where the “Any” key was.

“I believe we are on an irreversible trend toward more freedom and democracy. But that could change.” — Dan Quayle

“I want to make sure everybody who has a job wants a job” –George Bush, during his first Presidential campaign.

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